Archive | Romance RSS feed for this section

Honesty and Truthfulness in Relationships

6 Jul

Honesty and Truthfulness in Relationships

Honesty and Truthfulness in our relationships are paramount. Without either the relationship is doomed from the start. But first we must be honest and truthful with ourselves as to why we are involved with a particular person, like Shakespeare said to thine own self be true. What qualities should we look for in a mate? The Bible answers those questions through both positive and negative examples of men and women in the Holy Scriptures. Women typically seek a provider, protector and guardian. Even in modern times when women have advanced degrees and stellar career options we still look for that man who is symbolic of strength and leadership. After examination of the romantic lives of David and Solomon we can conclude they were great leaders in terms of the nation of Israel but not so much in their personal lives. As for Jacob, Rachael, and Leah that’s a love triangle more convoluted and complex than anything on TV, in the movies, or the soap opera people we personally know in our every day lives.

The Three Graces: Aglaia, Euphrosyne, and Thalia

The Three Graces: Aglaia, Euphrosyne, and Thalia

Women might have a clear idea of what qualities they expect and look for in a man but sometimes overlook certain character flaws that a fatal to a loving marital relationship. Ladies often mistake a man’s successful career, loaded bank account, and fancy cars, expensive clothes with that man’s ability or willingness to be an equal partner in a relationship. Like my mother and father used to say, everything that glitters is not gold.

Love can be corrupted by power, authority, and clout. Many men who have risen to the exalted positions in life feel the need to be in control of every aspect of their lives including the women in them.  Women must first seek out their spiritual and intellectual equals who is willing to work together in partnership to achieve agreed upon life goals. Ladies you might find that rich, wealthy man who is swimming in money yet wind up as a bird in a gilded cage yearning to be free, but tied to a lifestyle you don’t want to give up.

Men should and must seek out the Proverbs 31 woman. Gentlemen any woman can look good on the surface but look closely at the total package. Who and what are you getting for your investment? Folks ask yourself would you bring this person around your personal and church family and friends. Do they have specific goals in life other than to latch onto you like a leech? Keep in mind ladies and gentlemen no matter what age or stage you are in life you are looking for a life time companion. Friends first then Lovers later.

Now let’s look at what the lyrics of some of our favorite romance songs say about relationships. I choose these three because they exemplify the changes we often go through before we are united with the person who God means for us to spend our lives with.

What We All Look for in a Relationship

Honesty is such a lonely word.
Everyone is so untrue.
Honesty is hardly ever heard.
And mostly what I need from you.

I can always find someone
to say they sympathize.
If I wear my heart out on my sleeve.
But I don’t want some pretty face
to tell me pretty lies.

~ Billy Joel

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rWu0N0qPeME&feature=colike

 

How it was in my former relationship 6 years ago

‘Cause I can’t make you love me if you don’t
You can’t make your heart feel something it won’t
Here in the dark, in these final hours
I will lay down my heart and I’ll feel the power
But you won’t, no you won’t
‘Cause I can’t make you love me, if you don’t

I’ll close my eyes, then I won’t see
The love you don’t feel when you’re holding me

~ Bonnie Raitt

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7_SIfLzccbc&feature=colike

Who My Blessing from God is to me. He is that Man

He is the mind objector, the heart protector
The soul defender of anything I fear
The baby conceiver, the make me believer
The joy bringer, the love giver

He is the dough increaser, the pleasure releaser
The hard knocks knower without the scars to show ya
The night school teacher, the good life preacher
The caretaker, the kiss craver

{he is so {he is, so {he is
Everything, everything I want and I want it
{he is so {he is, so {he is
And so much more than I thought it could be
{so right so right {so right girls, i
I gotta be the same for him {i gotta be the same for him
For my baby
Oh…oh…yes, he is, oh, oh
I know exactly what he is

~ Heather Headley

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=chhZGflZi5E&feature=colike

 Donations to this ministry can be made via Paypal using my email: deborah.palmer280@gmail.com. Thank you and God Bless.

%d bloggers like this: